You can’t do it all: A lesson from Pope Benedict XVI

Asking for help isn’t always easy. Society has made many of us millennials think we can do it all.

But the realistic truth is… we can’t. The most important thing for young professionals to learn is when to ask for help.

You don’t even have to take my word for it. Would you believe Catholic Church leader Pope Benedict XVI? The Pope’s resignation swept the world early morning February 11, 2013. He will step down at the end of the month due to his declining health. In interviews with the media he explained that his age and health no longer allowed him to perform the duties required of him.

See? Even the Pope knows he can’t do it all, and he reached out for help. While we may not be influential world leaders – the philosophy is the same.

My favorite marketing professor, Gary Gagnon, always emphasized, “You can’t be all things to all people.” This is a lesson for all people of all ages, but especially young adults developing their lifestyle habits.

We all have goals and crafted plans to achieve them. We’re pretty much willing to do whatever it takes to succeed – which can be a recipe for disaster. Taking on too many projects, saying yes to too many favors, trying to please everyone can often leave us stressed out and less productive. Let’s face it – superwoman is a fictional character.

So when you feel like you’re about to break – reach out and ask for help. A support group of friends, family and professional mentors are truly a secret to success.

Build a group of people who care about you who will absorb some of your worries when you’ve taken on too much.It isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather strength, to admit you need help.

Whether it’s your personal or professional life, there are always people willing to help.

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How To: Screw Up an Interview

Didn’t get a call back on your last interview? Or you did but it wasn’t good news? Chances are you may have committed one of these interview sins.

If you want to be a tough young female professional you’re going to have to show it. Employers want to know they are hiring the best candidate, and it’s your to convince them it’s you.

Here’s a list of five simple ways to NOT get your dream job:

Be Unappreciative.

The interview process is long and grueling. Not just for you, but for the recruiter and hiring manager that have sifted through hundreds of resumes and are looking for the easiest reason to eliminate you from their long list of potential candidates.

So if you want to make an impact – be thankful. Thank them for taking the time to talk to you, thank them if they open the door for you, and thank them for interest in your qualifications. Okay, now don’t go overboard and be “that girl,” but showing you are courteous and well-mannered goes a long way.

Blend In.

In 6th grade if everyone was wearing a Hollister shirt, you just had to have one too. But this is not 6th grade. The last thing you should do in an interview is be just like everyone else.

Find one or two things that you really think set yourself apart and emphasize them! But make sure they are truly original, because thinking you’re more “innovative” than the next candidate really doesn’t say anything about who you are, or why they should hire you.

Just Show Up.

Let’s face it, if you’re going to an interview your biggest concern is probably what you’re wearing and if your shirt is well ironed. If so, it’s no surprise you haven’t gotten your dream job yet.

Before an interview you need to do research on the company that you are visiting. Don’t just Google “company x” and read the first thing that pops up, but really do some digging. Check their website and see what they’ve been working on, look in the news to see if they’ve gotten publicity over anything lately and look at their stock to see how they’ve been doing financially.

Good or bad findings are both great talking points. Companies like to know you are interested in them specifically – not just finding a paycheck.

Be Modest.

This is the one place you can brag and people won’t roll their eyes at you. Don’t dumb down your accomplishments because you don’t want to seem cocky.

Hiring managers are looking for applicants who make an impact, receive awards and have more than a ‘great internship experience.’ Be detailed, be excited and be honest. If you’ve done great things that are relevant to the position you are applying for make sure you emphasize them!

Read Your Resume.

Most likely, the reason you are sitting in an interview chair is because the company’s recruiter was impressed by your resume and passed it on to the hiring manager. So there is no need to repeat any of the bullet points you delicately crafted for your resume.

Sad, I know. Believe me, I’ve put a lot of time into writing my resume bullet points too. But in an interview talk about specific things you have done that aren’t on your resume. Give them stories and examples that they won’t forget after they shake your hand.